Was banned from !egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone for calling out a Mod's misuse of the Egg prime directive to criticize trans people for helping out trans women in denial of their trans-ness. They're denying the validity of signs of being transgender, what the actual fuck, this shit is not okay. Then after banning me that dipshit locks the post so no one else can reply on it. How is this not power-tripping?
Modlog history for my account: https://discuss.online/modlog?userId=11993717
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That mod was denying the validity of the signs of being trans, and they're not even trans themselves. Does it really seem appropriate to take advice from a cis person about what it really means to be trans?
I know that I reacted strongly but the fact is they really should not be a mod there, they're hiding behind the Egg prime directive to deny the experiences of real trans women because they think our stories about coming out are forcing gender stereotypes.
Also that mod very clearly overstepped by locking the post so no one else could criticize him for his invalidation of transfem experiences of being eggs and the signs we didn't see. Is that okay and justified for him to be able to silence people like that?
Please, don't misgender the mod. They identify as agender, not cis. This should be respected, even if you disagree with them.
The "core" of the advice comes from someone who's trans, Cassie LaBelle. The mod just applied it to this specific case.
And even if the mod wasn't from another group of people who, just like you, are also marginalised because of their gender (or lack of)... well, what matters is what is said, not who says it.
I'm cis, mind you. I'm talking about this here because it's how this comm works: you share something, then others say if they think that you, the mod, both, or neither are right. (And because I have trans friends who often talk about stuff, I hope I can relay their views a wee bit.)
Correct me if I'm wrong, but from your comments it seems that people were actively denying that you were trans, for a long time. What the mod is doing is something else entirely; they are not saying "your experience as a trans woman is invalid!", they're saying "everyone has different experiences". What was a sign for you might not be for someone else, and vice versa.
I'd probably do the same - it's a 3m old post, it had lots of activity, but the new activity is being combative.
If they genuinely wanted to silence you the ban wouldn't be just two days.