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What ability from people did you wish you had?
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I have ADHD. Anyone telling you it is a super power is either lying or has a drastically different experience with it than I do.
Its a super power in battle/reaction situations. In all aplicable areas of modern age, its a nightmare.
Nope. Absolutely not. That is your experience with it. Not mine. It's a disability. Please don't describe my experience with a disability as a super power.
I say because I have ADHD too. My reaction are more thoughtful and cold in stress situations like theft assaults or accidents are way better that neurotypical ones (I'm from latinamerica so they are very common). But I have so much problems to do normal things daily and they are ruining my life.
Is that directly related to ADHD or just an independent character trait?
I have ADHD too and in those few high stress / life or death situations I've been in, I suddenly felt super calm and focused while some other people were just screaming. I read somewhere that people with ADHD are overrepresented in first responders and similar jobs and I can believe that.
That being said, I very much agree with JackByDev. Yeah, ADHD is a disability. It has caused much pain and suffering for me and I wish I could get rid of it.
Thanks for the insight, that’s pretty interesting. But yes, it does not sound like it would be worth the trade-offs, if one got the chance to choose
I don't think it is. There are plenty of neurotypical people who have those qualities and plenty of people with ADHD who don't. My wife has ADHD and wouldn't fit that definition.
Not a superpower. Thinking all moments of every single day, although exhausting, does make one significantly more experienced with thinking and how their mind works than those who can choose not to think most of the time though if untempered these thoughts are typically nonsense. It's an advantage in many situations to be able to think at light speed while everyone else is panicking, but the burnout that comes from not being able to ever turn it off is pretty nasty. It's different with different advantages and disadvantages. I personally wouldn't change my mind to be different, but I wouldn't recommend a mind like mine to someone who wouldn't be able to handle it since I'm barely able to handle it myself with decades of experience.
That's good for you, but don't act like that's the typical ADHD experience. There is literally no benefit to this for me. It's a disability. There are so so so many neurotypical people who also meet the description of the advantages you're talking about. It's nothing unique to ADHD. And, that's great for you, I'm glad you're able to find what you believe to be a silver lining, but don't say it's some sort of universal advantage of ADHD. My wife has ADHD and definitely doesn't have that aspect.
One thing I've learned about ADHD is that since we can't control our thinking, we are each so divergent from the typical experience that we have little in common even with one another aside from common symptoms and the obvious reaction to those symptoms. My experience is not at all to invalidate anyone else's experience. That being said, it's very likely that the reason you are with your wife is at least partly due to how she is, and how she is is heavily influenced by her adhd. There are likely things you love about your wife that are directly influenced by her adhd or her life experience living with adhd.
If my wife and/or I were to magically lose our ADHD I firmly believe we'd stay in love. We've been together for 16 years and married for 10. I've been with them for over half of my life. We've both drastically changed from the people we were to the people we are now. Neither of us would likely fall for the other if we were meeting our past selves (assuming age isn't a factor, obviously lol).