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It's a little confusing because IMO both of these things are true at the same time: it's good to make friends at work, but by default your coworkers are not your friends.
But that's really just poor wording.
Having a friend or three at work is wonderful. It can make a shit job tolerable and a decent job fantastic.
Just choose wisely, take your time, and don't be too trusting too soon. And don't reveal too much personal information to coworkers that you don't know well and trust yet. Some of them will use that info against you. Ambitious psychopaths can be very charming.
We're ambitious sociopaths, thankyouverymuch.
For real you've got to keep it tight until you really know someone. Don't go telling everyone you smoke weed or something like that. You could do something completely innocent, someone takes it personally, and next thing you know you're up for a random drug test.
But yeah one of the best friends I've ever had is my sometimes coworker.
Same. A former coworker and I were in two different bands together, and we've stayed in touch over many years. And I'm pretty tight with 2 of my current coworkers, and friendly-chatty with a third.
But I keep everyone else on a low information diet. Especially my boss. He loves to use people's hobbies, personality quirks, etc, against them. Almost anything that isn't "working hard like a professional" is seen as some kind of weakness by that idiot. His only real hobby is 'craft beer'...because of course it is. (Not meant as a slam against people into beer, but my boss thinks that's an entire personality).