Should you or should you not make friends in your workplace? (lemmy.world)

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Years ago I read a reddit thread saying you shouldn't pursue friendships or relationships at your workplace. Then I again see all over the places over the internet that friendships don't happen a lot after you become working adult and that they're struggling make new friends. My question is If you don't purse friendships, how would those happen?

Want to know about the thoughts of people over here.

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[-] protist@mander.xyz 8 points 2 weeks ago

Obviously this is entirely your choice to make, but this all sounds really rigid and restrictive. If you view someone telling you about their weekend as "wasting time," I have to wonder if that mentality cuts into your personal life too. It's totally reasonable to make friends at work. If the concern is that they'd bring your personal drama to work, then just don't involve them in any personal drama and you're gold.

[-] ultranaut@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

My personal life is very different, I'll generally talk about whatever with friends or even people I've just met. I think I am very unprofessional when I'm not working, it's only when I'm working that I'm like this.

The point about drama isn't necessarily about me sharing drama, there's way more potential catalysts beyond that. Office politics can get crazy and all sorts of things can create weird drama. Being the boring person who is nice to everyone but only talks about work topics is an effective way to avoid that kind of bullshit.

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