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How to deal with bullies? (lemmy.world)
submitted 1 year ago by medvedev@lemmy.world to c/autism@lemmy.world
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I'm 13y old that was recently diagnosed with ASD. School is starting soon, they surely haven't changed nor a little bit. They're just bunch of idiots that like to express their pain and anger on others. Or just fool them for fun. Reporting them does nothing (have been doing that for almost 6 years). It's like reporting system in CP (Club Penguin), no one is even sure if it even does anything. I never do anything to them, I just stare at them or do something else. That I have blank face or sound calm dosen't mean that I'm calm. When I answer in short sentences that either means that I don't have inspiration to talk or that I hold lots of emotions in me. And, about blank face... I ALMOST ALWAYS HAVE BLANK FACE. I almost never express my emotions on my face. So, should I just throw a tantrum without caring for consequences or act tought. Does entire community of ASDers need to act like douchebags just to not be an easy target for bullying?!

P.S I've posted this in c/autism because I feel like this problem is deeply tied with my personality. -medvedev-

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[-] Etterra@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Although lacking ASD I had other problems growing up, and got bullied relentlessly. My advice is learn how to fight back. Like with literal punches and stuff. If you can, start lifting weights. If not, find an equivalent using mundane stuff - water-filled plastic gallon milk jugs is an easy starting point. Just do it safely.

When they start using violence, return fire but don't overdo it. You want to force them to find easier prey. Do no more than defend yourself, and when you - inevitably, because schools suck - get in trouble, maintain that you were defending yourself and will continue to do so, since the school is clearly unable or unwilling to do anything about it.

Bullies will continue to bully until forced to stop. What you don't want is to have a full on break and nearly kill somebody in a rage. If I was a teenager in this day and not in the 90s I'd have landed in jail.

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