Maybe Odysee is able to meet that purpose, maybe not. However, maybe you can use Jitsi to 'meet' your friends instead of posting private videos for them. Not sure if that's possible for you and your peeps, but it's there.

Otherwise the best solution I know of would be to self host because unless the service has some strange way to pay for server time (like Odysee's, which I don't exactly understand or Youtube's, which is selling identification tags of your mortal soul), you will always run into the same issues you've been having.

I haven't personally set up a personal server ( ͡~ ͜ʖ ͡°), but I want to at some point. There are of course drawbacks in that you'll have to set it up and maintain it yourself (with help from internet strangers), but at least you can do whatever you want with it.

https://cyberhost.uk/getting-started/#hardware

https://www.howtogeek.com/846979/heres-why-self-hosting-a-server-is-worth-the-effort/

Also, you can use freecycle to hopefully get a used computer tower that's still capable of being a tiny server. You'll possibly have to get yourself and older gpu to make it work though, which can be had on ebay. I would get anything greater than or equal too a 750 GT (NVidia) or R7 260 / 260X (AMD), or maybe something a bit newer so you don't have to worry about it turning to dust when you first start using it.

Good luck!

P.S. A lot of the right-wing conspiracy crap on Odysee can be found in the "lifestyle" and "education" sections. There are still some great channels like Louis Rossman, 3Blue1Brown and ElectroBOOM. Just the ones I know of. I suppose Odysee isn't the best for finding new channels...