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Perhaps I'm just paranoid, anxious and completely unfixable but I personally hate the concept of online dating. I feel like it's the same problem I have with most online services, being a product to advertisers and nothing more then a number. Once again it's probably me being paranoid but I'm at a point where I would rather just not go through the trouble of dating at all, especially since this data is from 2017 and has most likely favoured online dating further
Same, I agree mostly. Though I find being able to date offline and in real life, for lack of better terms, to be worth it. It also puts you ahead of all the people who just use online dating in a way, because you have a real connection with the person you are talking to.
I guess you're just using that as an excuse, because you're afraid of actually opening yourself up to the gender of your interests.
I've never been the most confident or outgoing person, it's just not who I am. I'm also not gonna fill this thread with outcry or a winded sob-story. Instead I will say, use whatever medium you choose to find the person you wish to spend your time with. It's a short life, live how you wish to live, I'll do the same.
Assuming they're a man it makes sense considering online dating has overinflated women's sense of worth to a ridiculous level to the point that even the smallest flaw is an "ick"
That's never been different. The fact that women don't just take anyone isn't a sign of "overinflated worth", it's a sign that the market is working.
There are roughly as many men as women. So almost everybody should be able to find someone. If there's too many men on Tinder, that only means that men are too eager to go on Tinder.
Yes that's how most relationships start. The man is the one initiating contact. If a man doesn't initiate contact he doesn't get a girl. Men are left wanting while women have several options almost at all times.
I know the current view of men is that we're all just potential rapists or abusers but that's exactly why so many men are trying to prove themselves. They're just trying to prove they're not what most women today think all men are.
Meanwhile women just exist. That's literally all they have to do.
That's almost a textbook incel comment.
If women don't want you, that's because you are not desirable. It's that easy.
I'm not a "chad" by any stretch and rather introvert. Yet even I was hit on by women. And I had good times with them. Didn't always work out, but that's expected.
What you're trying to do here is essentially shifting blame. As I wrote above, there are about as many men as there are women. That means, if you can't find anyone, that means your imagined "worth" and your desired partner's "worth" are not the same - and not in your favor.
I'm not desirable because I have resting bitch face. I always look like I'm angry even when I'm not. I'm also 6'3" so I'm imposing. I'm also covered in tattoos and scars some of which are obviously from self harm.
All of these individually are reasons for women to be uninterested in me. All of them together make me damn near impossible to approach.
And even when I do approach women they're so busy being afraid of my physical appearance they can't see that I'm not even close to a threat to them.
And that is not any women's fault.
BTW: there's a good chance, that your way of approaching other people is far more threatening/aggressive than you might think.