I've slowly become familiar with lemmy and learned the things like blahajj is an ally of trans but hides downvotes and kbin shows how you vote to others etcetc. i don't even know what hexbear is but hear it's ideologically wonky.
Lots of Lemmy instances basically have some decent aspects, but then something about them is a total dealbreaker.
I've started looking at moderation histories when coming across content removed by moderators and am now able to distinguish instances where ideologies not aligned with their admins get censored. I first noticed it when checking why certain posts were removed on Lemmy.ml and had to research lemmy.ml to understand they purposely are a socialist communist niche community so they basically remove content they don't want. I had a run in with a drama on Lemmy.world and curiously checked their mod log to realize that they actually quite often remove comments that don't match their ideology (along with finding controversial historical actions of .world).
So after all this getting to know instances involved in lemmy, you know which one has no weird dealbreaker attributes that I know of? I just realized tonight which one it is...
sh.itjust.works
So cheers everyone.
Admins and Mods here you are doing great. Community, you are doing great too. grats on being the best instance
Here is where I started, here my I be hurried. Love the ethos, love the mods, love the stability! (Great job @TheDude@sh.itjust.works).
Also, SJWBot still makes me laugh every time I see it.