cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/23396300
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nickyflowers posts:it would be cool if websites let you be an adult on them. the advertisers and payment processors need everything to be Family Friendly though and their definitions of family and friendly are absolutely fucked. but since they're in charge of the Internet now, no one is allowed to be an adult. tiktokers say things like "unalive" and "seggs" because they know death and sex are too adult for online. online is for idiot babies only now because they're easier to market to
nickyflowers replies:
oh im sorry you're a trans adult? super ban. you are super banned for life. you have upset Visa's feelings. Mastercard is throwing up in the corner. how could you do this to Google Ads?
It should be, and yet almost every single community is still enforcing some kind of stupid decorum or civility "standard" which sounds fine in theory, but almost always leads to a similar (albeit less egregious) thing. You still end up with jackasses who know how to play the civility game and are able to say intentionally antagonistic and awful things within the bound of decorum whose comments are allowed to stand while the decent people who rightly tell them to fuck off are getting moderated for "civility."
So long as we keep pretending decorum and methodology matters more than intent and we keep insisting on civility over decency, we're just doing the same damn shit.
Yeah, I really think that is the key to this. Because, to be frank, I think civility should be enforced in certain communities
not everywhere, necessarily
but, obviously, people that play the game while harming the community need to be excluded regardless. Civility matters, but decency > civility, every time.