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I’m in a wheelchair. And it feels so dehumanising. Because everyone makes an extra effort to never stare at me. I guess they learnt as kids you don’t stare at disabled people, but it feels like the lesson they internalised is you never look at disabled people. So no one ever looks at me except people I’m talking too. It makes me feel quite invisible.
Except kids. They always stare so mu h. It’s kinda weird.
This is a good point actually. I do look at people in wheelchairs since I would want that also.
And kids, they always stare at me too.
Dont worry, you picked hard mode this time in the game of life. I think it also gives greater rewards at the end.
What rewards and what good does it do if it comes at the end of everything
Damn. Just damn.
I never though about it but I zone off and end up staring at people more often then most I'm pretty sure but I was taught so repeatedly in childhood that staring at someone with any kind of disabilityis wrong so my eyes just kinda pass over them.
I think the staring is a sign of curiosity. The problem is, our emotionally stunted parents did not teach us how to ask questions and show sympathy which could be a solution to that curiosity.
I remember parents scolding their children for asking “out of pocket” questions about people that embarrassed the parents, and this resulted in them just suppressing their children’s curiosity about other people and their unique life paths.
Fuck, that sucks. I'm going to go look at you guys as much as possible. ❤️
Who said, she can't be into goblins?