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If you truly love your partner, does a ring and a ceremony really do anything?

I know there are certain legal situations where an official marriage changes who has certain rights, but aren't those same rights available if you make other legally-official decisions E.G. a will or trusts, etc?

I'm generally curious why people get married beyond the "because I love them" when it costs so much money.

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[–] Vinny_93@lemmy.world 34 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (2 children)

I didn't get married for the love or the religious reasons, it's just way easier when you buy a house together. Now, if I die, all my stuff automatically belongs to my wife.

We got married on a Tuesday morning at the municipal building at 8:30 making it free. The only thing we spent money on was the rings.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 18 points 16 hours ago (3 children)

What town is this where everybody gets free Tuesday morning weddings?

Not that I need another one, it just seems to be happening a lot in here

[–] BastingChemina@slrpnk.net 1 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Do you need to pay to get married ? I don't think we paid anything for the administrative side in France.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

I seem to recall paying a fee. Looking it up online on the website, it would cost $80 today in the county where we got the license.

[–] Vinny_93@lemmy.world 11 points 16 hours ago

This was Meppel but every municipality in the Netherlands has a free marriage half hour. It varies what day it is but it'll usually be early morning.

[–] trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world 8 points 16 hours ago

Most municipalities in the Netherlands have one morning per week for free marriages. Not always tuesday though.

[–] Noerknhar@feddit.org 7 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

That actually depends on the country. In Germany, as an example, it doesn't automatically go to your wife - you still have to declare that in your will.

[–] Vinny_93@lemmy.world 6 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

We have the option. If you get married you can get married in '(beperkte) gemeenschap van goederen', which means 'what's mine is yours'. Caveat is that anything you owned before you got married will not be taken into account.

Then there's 'huwelijkse voorwaarden' which means 'what's mine is mine'.

[–] Noerknhar@feddit.org 1 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Same here, but for us, it is a common misconception that this also is for when one dies. Crazy system if you ask me because totally unintuitive.

[–] Vinny_93@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago

In the Netherlands, if you don't have a will, it all goes to the spouse.