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[–] TommySoda@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

And I think it's just what it is to have ADHD and the like. Knowing you have it is not the same as accepting is a part of yourself and making changes that reflect that acceptance. Like, when I get hyper focused on a new hobby I always try to remind myself that if I don't actually want to commit I shouldn't go all out and spend a bunch of money and put in a bunch of effort for something that I won't want in 2 months. Because that's how you end up with a $400 3D printer that sits in the corner collecting dust. But something I do like is making music. Sure, I don't work on it literally all the time, but I keep it in the back of my mind as something I actually want to do and put effort into.

I'm not saying that dating is like a hyper-fixation or anything like that and I kinda lost the plot halfway through that comment, but the key takeaway I'd say is understanding and accepting yourself. Know what you want and what you are willing to go through to get there and don't expect results before you even make an effort. Dating is a game of trial and error and it's hard for even NTs to find what they are looking for. And basing what you want off of other people's experiences will only make it harder to find out what you want and what you are capable of.