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Is it bad that I'm not graduating on time? (discuss.online)

submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by lriv724@discuss.online to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I’m a senior who’s 21 years old. I will be 22 in July. I today found out I have to retake two college classes. And it sucks because I see on social media where some of my classmates that I graduated with in high school graduated college this spring. They got their bachelors and are moving on. I feel left behind because now I have to wait until the fall. I just hate the thought of being the last person to do something. It’s the worst feeling. I have to wait 7 months. I have never been good in school! I have always struggled. But it seems so easy for others. I hate the feeling.

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[–] cdf12345@lemm.ee 20 points 2 days ago

In 10 years you won’t even thing about this.

Just like I don’t remember which of my friends got their drivers license a few months ago before me.

It seems like a high deal now because you’re in the middle of it, but as someone’s few decades out, it’s not going to matter at all. Now that you’re an adult you’re going to meet people of all different ages and different places in their lives.

And most of it end up being because of things out of their control:

They have a physical illness or injury that slows down an aspect of their life.

They suddenly have to care for a parent, or sibling or child.

Jobs are suddenly available or not available, you might have to move cities, or across countries.

Everyone is doing things at their own pace. There is no reason to compare your journey against anyone else, because there are so many factors that got you where you are, and so many that will get your where you’re going, comparisons are worthless.