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How do I politely turn down a teenage girl? (lemm.ee)

submitted 2 days ago by poisonapple@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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(Yes, I’m aware of these bait-y titles.)

Anyway, I’m 23 years old. I live in my house with my wife. We have many teens in the neighborhood, which is good for my sister-in-law but one of them took a particular liking to me.

The girl and I just casually started talking when I would go for walks, for example. She then started acting really weird, like giggly or flushed. She told me she was bi but preferred women. I’m a lesbian.

Eventually, she confessed that she had feelings for me, though she knew I couldn’t return them. She has also told her friend (19F) that we are dating, when I told her this was not the case and I was married.

I am married and do not like this fourteen-year-old girl. How do I be respectful about not returning her feelings even if she knows I’m married?

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[–] mrcleanup@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago

The only right answer here is that being in a place where you have to extricate yourself from the situation means you are already deep in dangerous territory. Yes follow everyone else's advice too, but if at the end of it you haven't changed your behaviors so you are no longer exposed to this sort of risk, you still have a problem.

Rearrange your life so you aren't alone with/having conversations with teenage girls. If that's not possible, make sure you are never alone with them.

I'm surprised an adult hasn't already heard this girls claim and sent the cops to pay you a visit.

You in danger girl.