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The way I see it is that there is only lgbt(qts+etc). It's all the single banner, with more specific banners underneath, all allied. I refuse to ever use a fragmented name/letters because it doesn't exist that way and never should. Even seeing it as that way in comments gives me the ick. It's "the rest of us", not, "this other thing". Does that make sense?
That's why I like the term queer! And I've noticed quite a few people have started using gay as an umbrella term in certain contexts
I'm on the fence about that one. I think in queer company, sure. But non-queer people saying that feels ..... Ignorant and disrespectful.
I had an argument with a very drunk friend of mine when we were like 20, years ago. He was basically spouting biphobic stuff at me that "it's all gay", that "bi? You're just gay" and stuff like that. It felt really belligerent, homophobic, dismissive, and belittling, all at the same time.
So umbrellaing under gay, to me, is dangerous, optics-wise.