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What's a societal expectation you're glad you didn't meet? (lazysoci.al)
submitted 1 day ago by LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al to c/WomensStuff@lazysoci.al
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There's a lot of societal expectations for women, and often we totally understandably end up meeting them cos we feel we have to. They also sometimes just don't happen for us. What's one you're glad you didn't meet?

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[–] klemptor@startrek.website 22 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

I've been with my husband for a long time - it'll be 25 years this September. We only got married 3 years ago, and it was because I needed to go on his health insurance so I could retire. We were both happy with not being married, and also both fine with tying the knot once we saw an actual reason to do it. We didn't have a wedding, we just self-united (something you can do in Pennsylvania thanks to Quaker tradition) and filed the paperwork with the state. We don't wear rings and I kept my name. Literally nothing changed other than my health insurance.

Until we got married, a lot of people seemed really unable to understand why I didn't care about getting married. In the beginning there was a lot of external pressure/expectation on us to get married, which did die off after a while. I'm really glad that we did it on our own terms when it made sense to us, rather than caving to societal expectations.

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Similar to me, we'll have been together 10 years in October, married for 4. We married with one witness for each of us, which is the legal minimum here, primarily for the purposes of legal paperwork.

We do call each other "Mrs. Sharkweek" in an annoying cutesy way though, and we do wear wedding rings (stainless steel, 30€ each!)

It has worked really well for us.

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 4 points 21 hours ago

Nice and simple, I love it!!