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Divorcees of Lemmy, why did your marriage end? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 20 hours ago by bleistift2@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner change? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

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[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 10 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

She flipped on a switch one day and was just a completely different person than the one I fell in love with. Caught her attempting to cheat on me and when I confronted her about it she said she never actually gave a shit about me. She was abusive both verbally and physically. I endured her bullshit for 5 years because I simply couldn't afford to get divorced and she refused to leave. I am still technically married afaik unless she filed for divorce after I moved out (California only needs one party to file). I cared more about getting away from her than about government bureaucracy.

The whole thing made me stop believing in love, and I trust people a helluva lot less than I did before.