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We're fighting a losing battle. This is a space where we are very clearly not wanted, and we cannot discuss women's issues without hostility.
Keep it limited to makeup and fashion, I guess, unless you want to be brigaded!
I'm over it. Let the boys have their playground. Lemmy is not a space that is welcoming to women, and, because of that, unless sweeping changes are made, I just don't see myself ever recommending it to any women as a good place to make a community.
I'm not going to contribute to its growth or content any longer. "PROGRESSIVE" space. Garbage. Absolute fucking hypocrisy. I'm so sick of having to explain myself and be made to feel like I need to justify my existence here.
Good luck, sisters. I'm desperate for community, but this feels more like a battleground than it does a home.
We appreciate the sideline supporters who respect the community rules & expectations and are respectful enough to not interject. You are very much loved and respected, brothers. 🫶
EDIT: This community & its moderators have been nothing but kind & respectful to men who post here, and are constantly shit on & downvoted because of it.
I have resorted to being hostile! And I see very little difference in how this is being received compared to them.
My blood pressure too high rn.
EDIT 2: Mods.. I'm sorry for leaving you to find this dumpster fire of a thread! I gotta go to bed and I'm sick of trying to explain things to people who don't actually care or want to understand.
Women: attempt to foster & curate their own community to talk about women-centric issues and experiences without being drowned out by majority voices
The rest of Lemmy:
I think the only way to have a non-misogynistic place is to go to an old-school forum without "federation". That way you don't have the drive-by randos popping in to spout bullshit about how it's "misandry" to say "please guys, this is just our space, you can go literally anywhere else".
In my experience, unfortnuately, it doesn't matter where you go or how much effort they'll have to put in, some dude is always going to take personal offense to any space he's not allowed in and kick up shit there about it.
Can't kick up shit in an old school forum without an account, though. I mean count the guys commenting just in this message. They saw a message that specifically said "no guys commenting" and ... commented. This is because the whole way Lemmy works means everybody can see posts, even if they're not members. They can go to the local or all feed.
In a non-federated forum of the aulde skoole variety they'd have to go hunting for a forum for women, then make an account and pass muster, and only then can they start kicking up a fuss like a toddler. Some will, but I suspect way fewer than the drive-by randos here in Lemmy.
I wish I had a "white list" instead of a "black list" for federation. Right now if I see too many stupid opinions from a single place (lemmy.world I'm looking at you here!) I can block it. But given this intrinsically misogynistic environment on Lemmy it might be nicer to have lists of servers I want to see things from instead of ones I don't want.
'Cause I get this feeling that the former is a smaller list than the latter.
Yeah, I suppose that does sound nice. I guess I've just got some degree of learned helplessness making me feel like there's no escape.
A whitelisted Lemmy server sounds like it'd be great. Still get the feel of Lemmy minus (most of) the misogyny.