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When do you finally calm down after buying a house? (midwest.social)

submitted 3 days ago by Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.

I know buying a house is a top "most stressful thing" an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn't downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.

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[–] crawancon@lemm.ee 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

eh you get used to it. for me the anxiety from first house went down within a few weeks/months after moving in.

It's still a shit process every time. so ya never get used to the shit process of selling and buying a house.

I hear some folk have sweet stories of fantasy where rainbows and birds bring them the keys but I didn't get those in my filtered reality bubble.

maybe it's them there rich folk I been hearin' bout.

[–] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 1 points 3 days ago

Yeah was expecting it to suck ass. Two of my cousins bought houses around 2022 and I helped with some of the work at their places when they first moved in, so I knew nothing would be perfect and got an idea of what we could do ourselves/with a little help.

But yeah I happen to know a couple who had rainbows and birds deliver their keys. My SIL's SIL (there has to be a word for that) married a trust fund kid who's dad owns a car dealership. The dad was buying a house in a newly developed area, and decided to buy the house next to his and gift it. They have not been a good source for advice.