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I've been fortunate enough to not be homeless except for 6mo of couch surfing when I was 18 and that was mostly just an adventure. I have gone no contact with my entire family and the majority of friends.
I understand a chunk of your pain but not all of it. That's a raw fucking deal you got.
We looked at Canada real hard in 2020, ran the numbers and couldn't do it. Much easier for a single person. High earning couple can do it easy, as well. Back then we made the decision to get out of a red state, saved and planned and moved last summer. Best we could do. Good luck! If you're not bringing a family, I bet you can do it.
I've been in critical condition a couple of times with lengthy hospital stays and long recuperation. You probably won't ever be as good as you were but you'll be surprised at how much you can get back if you work on it.
I reckon my dies are cast on this whole thing, just going to ride it out.
I appreciate your empathy, and well, basically, likewise I think I understand some of what you're going through... before all the insane QAnon bullshit took off, I was actually close with much of my family, and ... I wished I could take the pain out my older relatives with severe arthritis....watched an aunt lose to cancer... and before that a... uncle-in-law? Whatever the word is for the father of my cousins, who I'm not related to.
But uh yeah.
So far my 'split the difference' plan is to get to Minnesota.
Minnesota is ....actually livably affordable on just SSDI, is reasonably blue, borders Canada in case I really need to GTFO... and, long term, if I can stay... well, MN actually is projected to ... basically suffer comparatively significantly less from climate change intensified disasters, so long as you are a decent distance from the Mississippi River.
... Or, all of Social Security gets cancelled and then something like 80 million poor, elderly, and disabled just become homeless and die within a few years, me included.
Oh well. I've now seen violent death up close and personal enough times that I have PTSD, at least it'll be familiar.
I finally got some sleep, appetite has begun returning. It is possible to live well with pain, but it's really fucking hard. It takes a lot of discipline because I have to keep moving and it's hard to maintain that. I'm going to clean the living room and check traps today and then take it easy.
Your plan and reasoning are very similar to my own. I chose northeast as I'm hoping on the temperature and weather moderating effects of oceans and lakes 200-400mi away.
I'm hoping blue states pick up slack on SS and Medicare othetwise you're right, it will be a death sentence for many.
I have found Tetris helps me some when I'm processing the bad shit. It really does help me, less nightmares. Really bad nights, I set the controller down and cry, and then pick it back up. It doesn't work for everyone, it may even be a placebo, but I'll take it.
My... mom came down with an incredibly debilitating form of neuropathy when I was just about to go from elementary to middle school.
I... know what its like to care for someone in a whole lot of pain, that doesn't even make sense to your doctors and 95% of people around you.
But uh yeah, anyway, a placebo that helps is a coping mechanism, not a placebo.
Might I suggest upgrading to a turn based strategy game like Civilization or Humankind?
Slower paced, but much more cognitively complex and engaging... you can actually get lost in the sort of emergent narratives.
Less rapid, twitchy tapping/clicking than tetris, might be something you could play longer before your hands make you wanna scream.
Granted, requires a bit more powerful and expensive of a machine to run than tetris... but if you already have a laptop, you might be able to run newer ones with graphics turned down.
Lots of other turn based strategy games also exist with all kinds of different settings and themes, many with less high powered graphics requirements... Xenonauts (2 is in early access or beta right now), if you want to lead a fireteam to stop alien invasions, for example.
My girl is a saint and takes amazing care of me when I can't. I know how lucky I am to have her. I've never had to be the carer other than when an ex recovered from a crash, but that was all bruising and whiplash.
The Tetris thing is actually pretty specific, it doesn't work for everyone. It helps with intrusive images and thoughts for me. https://theconversation.com/can-playing-tetris-help-prevent-ptsd-if-youve-witnessed-something-traumatic-226736 I'm decent at Tetris, saved up and bought the OG Gameboy back in the day. I get into the zone when I'm feeling bad and I can feel it push out some the bad stuff. It's something to do with the forced geometric thinking.
I never really got into strategy games except for Sim City. Adventure point and click, RPG (especially SF and Fallout 1-3), fps (Doom and Duke). These days, I find games that my girl enjoys watching such as Zelda. She does her yarning and I'll play Zelda. Just finished Tears of the Kingdom, was thinking about replaying MYST or something next.
How are you feeling?
Ah, I didn't realize the specifics of Tetris and the geometric puzzling being particularly effective.
But if you did like SimCity, and the earlier Fallout games...
There are a lot of modern rough equivalents to those.
Open Transport Tycoon Deluxe is roughly SimCity 2000 on steroids... more game mechanics, similar level of graphics, open source, totally free.
Fallout 1 and 2 have many, expansive, total overhaul mods these days, that basically use the base game and tell an entirely new story with it.
There's also Fallout Online, which is I think a modded/jerry-rigged version of Fallout 2 that expands it and turns it into a multiplayer, sort of MMO.
Beyond that you've got like... Atom RPG Trudograd, the ShadowRun pc games, Colony Ship... there have been a multitude of isometric RPG games with turn based combat in the years since Fallout 1/2...
And, if you liked Doom... well, there are now tons of Doom mods, infact, a reworked and opensource version of the Doom engine, gzdoom, has actually served as the engine a bunch of successful indie games have been built off of... the Zoomers have given such games the moniker of 'Boomer Shooters'... but yeah theres tons of those kinds of games on Steam or otherwise available.
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But uh anyways, me?
I'm doing alright.
I could trauma dump about all the insane bullshit I've been through, but whats the point?
Hermit me is happy me, genuinely.
I'm a simple man at heart.
Very intelligent snd academically gifted, high functioning autistic.
"Hell is other people."
Socializing often doesnt go well for me because most people are hypocritical bullshitters by default about most things, I call that out instantly and laugh at it, and because most people are so stuck up their own asses, they hate me for that... the few who can laugh at themselves become friends.
But in the end, all I need to be happy is food, water, shelter, a decent bed and chair, some kind of creative input/output screen or otherwise.
I used to play bass, would love to get into that or perhaps another instrument if I can get decent dexterity recovery... but I am now almost at the point where I can actually do a daily walk, and I honestly just love going for nature walks, so that'll be great.
If I can get a cheap but not immensely shitty apartment somewhere close to Canada, I plan on making a video game ... doesn't have to make me rich, just serves as a creative and techbrained hobby... and, it might actually make some money, who knows.
How am I feeling?
https://youtube.com/watch?v=1jVaKBB0jHU
Like that.