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(Yo so I know I'm not supposed to be commenting but can I just ask a quick question? Won't make a habit of it but this kinda blew my mind.)
Wait, so does mansplaining require the man to be incorrect? I (for about a year) dated a woman who used to accuse me of mansplaining every time I would be excitedly ADHDsplaining a niche interest, and now I'm kiiinda super self-conscious about talking about...well anything, unless I know the other person has a decent idea of the subject already.
So...was she using it right, or wrong and she's just a jerk who wanted to hurt me?
I'd believe it, she did threaten to shoot me (like, not for a good reason that would be legal, for spending my own money on comics that I could afford), so it wouldn't be too out of character. But as a result I may have misunderstood this term for oohhh about 7yr now... Like I said I know I'm not supposed to comment and I'm sorry but can you elaborate on the meaning/appropriate application?
Hey Arcaneslime! You're right, men shouldn't be commenting. Please don't comment again thanks for understanding 😊
Another piece of hilarity for me. "I know I shouldn't be doing this here, but I'm going to do this. Here."
And then they wonder why we have such a poor opinion of them.
I would put it like this: Before you are going to explain something in Detail that you are curious about ASK the other Person if by Chance she knows about it already. If so, let her explain it to you or have a fruitful discussion on it together (with that i mean , take care both of you speak in equal parts), but do not start to explain the basics again. Its Boring and offending if she already knows and on top embarrassing if you Make mistakes. At least the last is called mansplaining. In General and especially in a date, the "take care both of you speak an equal amount of time" is a good advice. ;) although, i know its sometimes hard for adhd people, when you get carried away with a topic and i know its not done in purpose. If you follow this, i dont think you should be shy about your topics in conversations and dating Situations.
Mansplaining is generally when the man is incorrect while explaining something to a woman that she's the expert in, yes. Like telling a woman "you obviously need to read McCarty et al" when she is McCarty et al (to cite a famous example).
Oh really? I always thought mansplaining involves also true facts that are explained to me even though i defintiely know and they know already i do. It happens to me a lot since i am a scientist...
For example during corona a carpenter explained me how a PCR test works, knowing I studied something with biology and already did PCR during my studies myself. He was right in his a little superfacial description of it. Still, i just was super baffled, that someone i just told i studied and did that already myself, who himself is not from the field and never did it, feels the urge to explain the method to me as if he was my highschoolteacher. To me thats mansplaining as well, even though he was right in his description. But maybe i got the Definition wrong. If thats not mansplaining, how do you call it then? It happens Quite often to me .... (Corona was special though, suddenly everyone was a scientist. :D).