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Why?? Why the fuck are people trying to justify misgendering trans women? I just saw a video on Lilly Tino (not linking to it, I don't want to support that human piece of shit who made it) and people kept misgendering her in the video and also saying that she deserves to be misgendered because she "doesn't put enough effort to look like a woman" or that "she makes trans women look bad" and that means they think she doesn't deserve to be addressed by her preferred pronouns. What the actual fuck? I never really liked Lilly Tino's content, it seems cringey and I don't like TikTok anyway but seriously what the fuck? Please tell me I'm not the only one who's made super uncomfy by this casually accepted or even morally accepted transphobia. Like by this stupid logic I'm not valid because I'm a tomboy, because I didn't shave off my mustache, because passing isn't of the utmost importance to me.

Also I think this outrage is stupid because it's trying to stigmatize us for speaking out about being misgendered simply for not passing. Like what the fuck? Misgendering is extremely disrespectful and when people do it on purpose why shouldn't I yell at them "what can I get you ma'am" speaks "oh, sorry sir" that's intentional misgendering, and I will absolutely yell at someone who does this to me, because if I don't they'll just keep doing it.

I don't know what Lilly Tino did to create such drama and I don't care, this reeks of the same garbage transphobic rhetoric I've heard all my life (and unfortunately participated in before I knew better) and it's disgusting. Fuck all the people engaging in it and misgendering this person, or encouraging misgendering as a form of punishment. I'm sorry but I'm just really pissed about all this and I know a lot of this is just ranting.

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[–] gnomesaiyan@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago

If someone misgenders me, I just laugh it off, especially if it's intentional (I sometimes give them a bow and "namaste"). I came this far to get where I am, I'm certainly not going to let what others say get under my skin.

"Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." -Lao Tzu

Also, stay off of social media if you care about your mental health, especially Tiktok. It's brainrot and not worth your energy.