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Chronic Illness

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A community/support group for chronically ill people. While anyone is welcome, our number one priority is keeping this a safe space for chronically ill people.

This is a support group, not a place for people to spout their opinions on disability.

Rules

  1. Be excellent to each other

  2. Absolutely no ableism. This includes harmful stereotypes: lazy/freeloaders etc

  3. No quackery. Does an up-to date major review in a big journal or a major government guideline come to the conclusion you’re claiming is fact? No? Then don’t claim it’s fact. This applies to potential treatments and disease mechanisms.

  4. No denialism or minimisation This applies challenges faced by chronically ill people.

  5. No psychosomatising psychosomatisation is a tool used by insurance companies and governments to blame physical illnesses on mental problems, and thereby saving money by not paying benefits. There is no concrete proof psychosomatic or functional disease exists with the vast majority of historical diagnoses turning out to be biomedical illnesses medicine has not discovered yet. Psychosomatics is rooted in misogyny, and consisted up until very recently of blaming women’s health complaints on “hysteria”.

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Woman in a wheelchair saying: “THERE IS NO MARRIAGE EQUALITY UNTIL PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES CAN MARRY WITHOUT LOSING BENEFITS”

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[–] PalmTreeIsBestTree@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Couldn’t he just put you in his will?

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Yes, and he has. That doesn't change the fact his family could come in and override decisions for medical care if he were to undergo a coma or the like. It's also more likely they can contest the will as we're not married and have the judge grant them it.

[–] PalmTreeIsBestTree@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Similar shit happened to my WW2 veteran great uncle in law. His family who he hadn’t been close with in decades tried to take over his life from us but he managed to fight it before he died and was able to move back in the town his wife passed away in because his family moved him for a bit.

This is exactly what happened to gay couples during the AIDS crisis and precisely why same-sex marriage laws were fought so hard for.

[–] yuriRO@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 days ago

This a preventive situation from bad family members, makes sense to be fearful that at some point, someone decides to take legal action and separate you from him, its crazy because as a couple you stay most of the time with him and very likely also share income but as other comments, marrying also implies sharing income and that affects insurance.