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Salacious, but not graphic.
Anal.I hate it. But every so often I'll allow it as a "treat". And I have to pretend to enjoy it.
Ugh.
Done similar with exes. "Oooh yes I love this murderously uncomfortable position/ incredibly boring act woop yay"
I blame it on porn. Positions that put the naughty bits on full display while sexing are not exactly … ah … comfortable. But porn has become the training ground for sex for so many men. 🙄
Yep if it feels good it looks like shit and if it looks good it feels like shit
Well a good partner will learn what you like and enjoy and will not pressure you to do anything that you don’t enjoy.
I think it's just a little bit more nuanced than that. Sometimes, if it's something my partner really enjoys and I don't, I like to indulge them. As long as the relationship is bidirectional in such issues I don't see it as a problem.
It's like ... washing dishes. I hate washing dishes. But I do it because as part of a healthy relationship we share things, even things we personally find unpleasant.
If I start getting demands to do things, however, that's now toxicity in the relationship and gets nipped in the bud.
Man that sucks :( I'm curious, why do you feel like you have to allow it and pretend to enjoy it?
There's give and take in every relationship. Sometimes I do things I'm not terribly fond of because my partner is. Sometimes the other direction is true. I don't do it frequently (because I don't really like any aspect of it), but sometimes 🤷♀️ you do things for love.
As for pretending to enjoy it, it wouldn't be much of a "reward" if I just visibly endured it. I don't go with people who only think of themselves; they usually want me to enjoy myself as well. I can do something that I don't really like for a while if it makes someone I love happy. And probably vice versa.