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The concept of marriage, monogamous people pretending to be polyamorous, sex being the only thing we had left, people that had undiscsussed expectations of us, people that used us, hierarchy in our relationships, going to weddings, parents and siblings.
We then figured it all out and realised we're relationship anarchists who never want to be married because to us that denotes a hierarchy, we're okay with sex but only if we have a strong emotional connection to somebody (and that takes a long long time). We will never date people who are really only monogamous again, we won't date people who aren't okay with their expectations of us (beyond just not being an asshole etc) not being met if we can't meet them and they don't discuss them with us, we don't like weddings, and unless someone is certain we will get on well with their parents and siblings we have no desire to meet them as we have been treated badly many times by such people or seen them treat previous partners badly.
Also one of us's parents and sibling and all their abuse over the years.
Also the abuse and stiffling that both school and jobs inflicted on us, none of them really helped nor understood us and we ended up leaving both in the end with very little to show for it.