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this 82 year old woman dressing like she was 40 or younger makes me think about how ridiculous I'll look like when and if I reach that age. Am I misguided? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 weeks ago by sarah2653@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I don't know what to think about it:

On one hand she looked ridiculous, wearing expensive make up and clothes, dyed hair, polished nails... the whole nine yards. She was together with a man who I thought was her husband, turns out was her son who was with her to make sure she doesn't wander off. She was slow giving answers and wanted to walk away, but her son always told her not to and to wait for the ambulance.

On the other hand, who am I to judge that woman if it makes her happy to dress like that? in 5 years or less she might not even remember her name. Who cares what she looks like? let her live like she wants.

this got me thinking, because on a previous post about aging another member of lemmy wrote never to act your age and to remain curious about anything, never to think that my way or my generation's way of doing things is the only right one as a way to avoid being a judgemental, sad and angry old person and to avoid dementia. Ain't this woman doing exactly this, not acting her age?

Still, to me looks like a complete waste of a life not to act your age to pretend being 40 years younger than you are. I would hate myself if all I can think about when I'm 80 is how to have sex with somebody 60 years my junior.

Is my future going to be that, to dress to look younger to try and get some attention from the opposite sex?

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[–] pocker_machine@lemmy.world 5 points 3 weeks ago

You sound young, so this response is based on that judgement (pardon me)

Answer to your question - No you won’t. You decide how you want to live your life. You can look however you want as you age up.

Another thing to be mindful of - Life is shorter than it seems. Prejudices are needless burdens that creep into our minds — the sooner we let them go, the more fully we can live.