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In your opinion, what is the correct way to handle a partner who insists they are fat, even though you know that they're objectively not overweight? (reddthat.com)

submitted 5 days ago by ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Do you keep telling them they're not fat? Do you decide to just support them as they try to lose weight?

What's your opinion on this?

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[–] jet@hackertalks.com 14 points 5 days ago

Feeling fat isn't just about being fat, it's about knowing you could be better for your health.

If a partner says they're feeling fat, it probably means there's something they think they should be doing but they're not doing.

Maybe they want to eat better, maybe they want to exercise, maybe they think they should be doing these things even though they don't want to be doing these things.

When the partner emotes to you, you can use that as a point to help them improve, or go on a fitness journey with them, or just reaffirm that you find them attractive. It's just an open dialogue option