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In your opinion, what is the correct way to handle a partner who insists they are fat, even though you know that they're objectively not overweight? (reddthat.com)

submitted 5 days ago by ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Do you keep telling them they're not fat? Do you decide to just support them as they try to lose weight?

What's your opinion on this?

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[–] robocall@lemmy.world 6 points 5 days ago

I've lost about 55lbs over the past two years and still have 15-20lbs before I reach my goal weight. I was overweight.

I know my partner would still love me if I didn't lose the weight, and was never bothered by my body the way I was. It's not about what my partner thinks of me. It's about what I think about myself, and frankly society. Society is kinder to me after losing weight, and I suspect I'll be treated even better in the world once I hit my goal weight. People are so happy and proud of me (for essentially skipping meals.)

I don't know how to convince someone to not crave the kindness and compliments now that I get them.

Once I've reached my weight goal, it might be difficult for me to stop trying to lose more. To see how far I can go. I really had to change my mindset to lose weight. It will be difficult to adjust or alter that mindset once I reach my goal weight. It will be a process to learn how to change my food behaviors and find the balance of not over eating or under eating.

This probably doesn't answer your question.