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I was describing my insane in-laws for the record.
This is an edit and not a footnote. Therefore the * comes before the word and not after.
^ This is a pe~~n~~dantic person with OCD ensuring that they've done their thing.
EDIT: fix erroneous spelling. I'd say it'll teach me to do this stuff when I'm too tired, but we all know that wouldn't be true.
Also I wonder is that spelling intentional pedant bait? Probably not, but it is in my head canon :)
Also I wonder if you're so deeply insecure that you spend your time trying to find ways to look down upon others to momentarily make yourself feel smug and superior. The problem with that approach is that it's like being addicted to drugs: the effect doesn't last, and becomes weaker every time - so you wind up doing it more and more in a pointless effort to regain the same high as the first time you did it, which only serves to make you seem like more and more of an asshole.
Oh, thanks! Now, I understand these stupid assholes in my life... 🤣
^ This is a person using OCD as an insult and helping to spread ableist language.
Oh, get over yourself. It was in no way an insult unless you're looking for it to be one. We all have our challenges - some more significant than others, of course - which makes being able to laugh at ourselves an important means of relieving the stress of those challenges.
I have ADD, depression, & some other mental challenges of my own. My spouse has several physical health issues (which cause additional mental health issues). Nobody understands or cares & we just have to deal with it.
I get the sensitivity to an extent, but you need to learn to distinguish between malicious intent versus those just trying not to take things too seriously (or in this case, trying to encourage someone else not to). None of us are perfect, and that includes you.
The important thing is that we try our best to not only get through this crappy excuse for a life ourselves, but also to help others do so when we can. My attempt to inject some mild humor into a situation where someone was being a bit overly condescending, while also having fun with the accidental double-post of a comment was just that - some light-heated poking of fun at something being taken too seriously.
Sorry, I didn't mean to strike a nerve. Also sorry to hear you and your spouse have some difficulties with mental and physical challenges in today's world. I hope you can find some understanding people to cooperate with.
Intent deducing should also go both ways, I did interpret your posts in a somewhat light-hearted manner in line with the comm vibe, but it also just doesn''t sit right with me using real disorders people have as an insult. I replied in it in the same format as you did but you seemed took offense when I did it even though you used the same format in your comment.
Anyway, I wish you good luck in your journey and thanks for reading.
As I said, it was not an insult - that you choose to interpret it that way is on you.
I really don't understand why people find it acceptable to make a joke where the punchline is accusing someone of having a mental illness.
To me there is very little difference between that and putting someone down.
Why is it funny to accuse someone with making a minor correction of having OCD?
Oh, and maybe you should consider not thinking of the term "OCD" as an insult. Maybe that's where our difference in perspectives lie: I simply don't consider it an insult, but what it actually is: a mental condition (or perhaps it's more accurate to say it's a symptom that's indicative of one). People are okay talking about depression, ADHD, etc. - why not the same for OCD?
It's a factual condition, not an insult - unless someone decides to make it one, which unfortunately happens all the time. Some people use the word "Jew" as a slur - does that then make all utterances of the word a slur? No, that's absurd. Intent matters, and the same applies with any other words/terms like OCD.
I suggest listening to and/or watching some early George Carlin routines like Class Clown. Much of his comedy was based upon how words are used and interpreted.
I don't think of it as an insult generally, but it reads like an insult in this context to me since you certainly weren't using it a clinical sense and it doesn't land as a joke imo; now you can say that's all on me if you want but communication has 2+ parties involved. Even if it wasn't meant as an insult, it is still ableist language in this context imo and I will call it out even if it makes people uncomfortable.
Well, I'll admit I'm older and perhaps less sensitive to that notion than I should be - particularly as I never heard that term until the past decade or so. There are times when I can definitely see the issue, and then there's times like this that I just don't - or just think the sensitivity towards the topic is being taken too far beyond reasonable expectations. Guess we'll have to agree to disagree on the point.
BECAUSE it was a "minor correction" made in a context where most would not consider it important or even germane as it was a casual conversation, not a classroom or office setting.
Again, you chose the harshest possible interpretation with "accuse" - as if I were attacking, berating, or belittling them. I didn't say anything aggressive like "Who cares? Take your OCD issues & stuff it where the sun don't shine!" (I'm sure worse could be said, too - I'm just not thinking in such a manner.)
I (and many others, it seems to me) find it better to be accepting and honest of one's own faults - more trust and respect is earned from others that way, as well as gaining a level of self-confidence from facing your demons. If the person who I was addressing actually has an issue with OCD (or any other mental divergence from "the norm"), then acknowledging and accepting that fact is commonly understood to be the first step towards taking control of it. If they don't have such an issue (or think they don't), then being made aware of how their actions come off to others isn't a bad thing, either.
Either way, accepting the facts of how others perceive you, and being able to laugh about how absurd or silly those interpretations can sometimes can be shows that you don't take yourself or others too seriously, and that you know who you are and are comfortable with it. IMHO, this is a level of maturity everyone should try to reach as soon as they can because once you have that larger perspective on the world, the easier it becomes to work with it.