this post was submitted on 20 Aug 2025
424 points (98.4% liked)
tumblr
4997 readers
595 users here now
Welcome to /c/tumblr, a place for all your tumblr screenshots and news.
Our Rules:
-
Keep it civil. We're all people here. Be respectful to one another.
-
No sexism, racism, homophobia, transphobia or any other flavor of bigotry. I should not need to explain this one.
-
Must be tumblr related. This one is kind of a given.
-
Try not to repost anything posted within the past month. Beyond that, go for it. Not everyone is on every site all the time.
-
No unnecessary negativity. Just because you don't like a thing doesn't mean that you need to spend the entire comment section complaining about said thing. Just downvote and move on.
Sister Communities:
-
/c/TenForward@lemmy.world - Star Trek chat, memes and shitposts
-
/c/Memes@lemmy.world - General memes
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
Yeah, he shouldn't have to make it literally impossible to track down his fetish content starting with his real name, but his co-workers also shouldn't be exposed to his fetishes if they simply look up his name online. It's like the difference between someone hiding in the bushes and peeking into his window, and someone who can see him from the street because he didn't close his blinds. Closing the blinds is the professional thing to do.
illegal
Not illegal
Edit: I fucking hate the formatting syntax in this app
Is looking up one's coworkers names a professional thing to do? Im not very good with social etiquette Ill admit but I would feel like I was being rudely invasive if I were to do that.
It also feels to me like one shouldnt have to be professional outside of working hours, and since social medias arent a part of most people's jobs nor something one is expected to use at work, except for jobs specifically focusing on it, a social media page should be considered an unprofessional space, but maybe that's just me.
I've looked up my coworkers' names to find their resume or projects that they have uploaded, and I would look up job applicants to see if they really did the things they claimed to have done. If I went further than that and, for example, searched for their usernames or email addresses to see if they reused those anywhere spicy then I would be rude and creepy but the fact of the matter is that your name is not a secret. People can easily see anything associated with it online so if you're doing something you wouldn't do in public then you should use a pseudonym. (That's why I think laws that threaten online anonymity are so problematic.)
It's not that I think online stuff isn't public or isn't that easy to find, is more that it feels like a different context than the context of one's job, for most jobs anyway, and so to me at least, even if one sees it, if feels unprofessional to me to care about finding something as mundane as sexual stuff. Isn't like it's a sign of hurting people or something. I do prefer to use a pseudonym, sure, but for reasons unrelated to professionalism. Granted, my line of work isn't one where an individual's personal projects would be very relevant, so perhaps the idea of searching up one's coworkers feels more strange to me than it would for someone in like software or something.
If his coworkers find his shit and click past an nsfw warning, that’s more like someone peeking thru bushes or something in your simile imo. Bro shouldn’t have to sanitize what he does on his own time on the chance a job looks at it unless he’s a teacher or some shit
Why not teachers? I hear kink puts a lot of focus on consent, and kids really need to learn about that right now.