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If you've met a nerdy type and you think they aren't kinky in some way, it's because they've mastered masking in front of the normies. It's an essential life skill. I don't know a single kinky person who isn't a nerd or a geek, and vice versa. Full credit to this guy for living life out loud. Wish being kinky wasn't an opportunity for public shaming, but it is how it is.
While there is undeniably large crossover, I also know a several of ace people, who are all very nerdy.
And like, for me, I mean this with zero judgement, I think kink is gross. People can and should live their lives 'out loud', and I think there is nothing wrong with kink. But also, I'd prefer not to hear about it, or to know specifics
To be fair, one can't assume that a person has no kink type interests just on account of being ace, because there is some some overlap even there, but yeah, the way it's phrased that commenters anecdote would better support the notion that kinky people tend to be nerds, than that nerds tend to be into kink.
I’d prefer not to hear about it, or to know specifics
Yeah, he shouldn't have to make it literally impossible to track down his fetish content starting with his real name, but his co-workers also shouldn't be exposed to his fetishes if they simply look up his name online. It's like the difference between someone hiding in the bushes and peeking into his window, and someone who can see him from the street because he didn't close his blinds. Closing the blinds is the professional thing to do.
If his coworkers find his shit and click past an nsfw warning, that’s more like someone peeking thru bushes or something in your simile imo. Bro shouldn’t have to sanitize what he does on his own time on the chance a job looks at it unless he’s a teacher or some shit
Hi. Ace and sex-repulsed person with hundreds of board games here.
Occasionally I’m partial to gently holding my wife’s hand.
Occasionally I’m partial to gently holding my wife’s hand.
I normally have to open my VPN to read such smut
Of course, it’s in private, and in a pitch-black room where no one can see, and only for a moment or two. Afterward, I say “thank you,” and she says the same. Then we go to our separate beds on separate floors of the house to sleep. She’s on the first floor and I’m on the third. Don’t want anyone to accuse us of impropriety.
Do you live in the UK?
ooh, be careful. That sounds like a public display of affection. You'd get sent up the principal's office at my high school.
(why yes, my autistic ass took decades before I became comfortable breaking that ingrained rule, even after graduation. Thanks, Kentucky.)
My high school in rural Kentucky was like this as well. Meanwhile nearly 1/10th of the female students were pregnant and the biology teacher was fucking students in the lab supplies closet. Hopefully not related, but given the way these things are talked about only through euphemism, who knows?
The sex education we received was the type where they just show you a bunch of gross pictures of STDs and tell you abstinence is the only guaranteed way of avoiding them.
Even at 40, people are still being weird to me. I was playing some late-night cribbage in a queer bar in town, just like how I go there every week to play cribbage or hive or chess or go and such; this woman my age was being super flirty with me and wouldn’t stop despite the fact I wasn’t reciprocating the flirts, but that I was still being friendly cause I liked playing bar games with her. Told her I had a go board in my car, she was interested, and she came with to my car to go get the stuff. Once I left the bar, I told her, “fuuuck, it’s like I’m the only sex-repulsed person in the bar, and no one respects it in there, but thanks for being someone I can confide to out here.” Her flirtiness dried up almost immediately, and she insisted that she wasn’t flirting with me for the couple hours prior, like she was trying to edit the past.
I’m not young anymore, why does this sort of stuff keep happening? I don’t get it.
Once I left the bar, I told her, “fuuuck, it’s like I’m the only sex-repulsed person in the bar, and no one respects it in there, but thanks for being someone I can confide to out here.” Her flirtiness dried up almost immediately, and she insisted that she wasn’t flirting with me for the couple hours prior, like she was trying to edit the past.
It sounds like she was following your lead. You pretended out of politeness that she hadn't been the one flirting with you, so she thought she was being polite by doing the same. Or she was embarassed.
Lots of people are oblivious and don't realize when someone's flirting, so she might have assumed that's why you weren't reciprocating. There's no way she could have known you were repulsed by sex until you told her, and when you did she stopped flirting. I get that you're bothered by people flirting with you, but there isn't anything weird or rude about her behavior. Just a bit of unavoidable awkwardness that comes with socializing.
I mean, my color scheme for every outfit I have is purple, black, gray, and white, so I’m literally a walking ace flag. And she’s in a queer bar, so I would hope she knows at least a couple of flags.
Gentle affection? That’s pretty kinky!
I mean, I’m trans, so that means that (despite being tied for the least perverted person ever) I’m terrified of ever being seen as a pervert.
At least my name isn’t in the Epstein files; can’t say that for other people.
Ah yeah, the usual bullshit anti-trans propaganda, where accusations so frequently end up being admissions. I'm sorry you have to live through all that nonsense.
Pretty much everyone into STEM is a little kinky. We all love tinkering and asking why. For sexuality that is kink.
He'd smash your atoms though