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Oh. Nice to know my relationship struggles are all my fault.
Yes
obviously I don’t know your situation. if you had bad experiences with one person, it may very well be their fault, or someone else’s, or even no one’s (shit happens sometimes)
but if every relationship you have turns bad? ya might wanna look inwards a bit. not saying it’s your fault, I can’t know… but a bit of introspection is never a bad thing
Unironically yes, they are. Whose else do you think it could even possibly be?
I mean... the definition of a relationship is that there's another person to have a relationship with. So probably that one.
I think the point you're missing is that the requirement here was stated as "as long as you're not an insufferable person, you will get sex", which is blatantly false. You can be perfectly pleasant and never "get sex".
My approach is to trust their lived experience. They are frustrated. If someone applies to 100 jobs, and only gets scam offers and ghosted by businesses, I don't tell them how they just need to smile more authentically.
It could be no one's fault. This is the most common culprit for most peoples' misfortune.
Of course, if they want their situation to change, it is only within this person's purvue to change their situation. But fault? Not necessarily theirs, at least.
It's my fault. I placed a curse on them. Not even for any reason, I was just practicing
Obviously the other person, duh
What an unempathetic take. It doesn't have to be anyone's 'fault', although I'd say it's largely society's fault if there's any blame to be had.
Capitalism. No i will not explain further.