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Hoping you don't take the downvotes to heart. Excuse my french, but you're a bit of a weirdo and I'm sure you know this. I'm a weirdo in different ways so I get it lol!!
Anyway, I'm really happy for you that you managed to find a partner so well suited for you. A compatibility scenario like yours in an already niche group of people sounds more like finding a needle in a haystack to me. While I get that technically there is probably some individual on the planet that is compatible with me due to my niche sexual/romantic needs, it is statistically unlikely and incredibly difficult to ever hope to find someone like that.
Nah, the haters are always a minority, it's fine :). I hope you at least try to stay open and positive about things, you might find someone just passively. You can do this ^_^
Thanks to you and /u/dingus@lemmy.world for the delightfully polite and slightly weird, but very uplifting and wholesome interaction!
As someone who is demi and married, it was a lot of hard work to find what I was looking for. It was not something I was able to achieve organically out meeting people via a hobby or something. The dating pool is shallow and small for aces, tiny if one is rural. I was determined and persistent because it was important to me, and it still took me about 6 years of consistent effort to find the right relationship for me. I do not blame anyone for just opting out of trying.