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[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I didn't see anything in her posts that implied she wanted a higher libido or that she saw her lack of sexual desire as an issue in her day to day life. I did see her say she might like intimate human connection but that's perfectly possible without sex. I think we might both be doing some projection, as yes I am sensitive to people who recommend seeing a doctor when someone describes what its like to be ace, but also you seem to assume having sex is a prerequisite to having an intimate relationship with someone.

It's not.

[–] Cypher@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I also have the inability to feel sexual pleasure. I have tried all different kinds of ways of masturbating and none of them have felt like anything

This doesn’t come across as her being happy with the situation.

I never once mentioned a relationship.

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

I see, I didn't interpret that paragraph that way