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Masculinity is when you can act like an adult without worrying about what other people think of you.
I was raised by my father ... a traditional Ojibway/Cree hunter, trapper and traditional person and my mother ... a traditional Ojibway/Cree woman who was more than capable of living on her own. Dad was more man than any male I've ever known ... he did all the manly things like hunt, trap, fish, travel on land, water, walk, canoe, snowshoe, dogsled, and he could do it all for days, weeks and even months on his own without help.
But the greatest thing he taught me is to know that there is no such thing as 'men's work' or 'women's work' ... sure men are designed to do certain things and women are more capable in other things ... but all in all, men can do what women do and women can do what men do ... there are a few biological exceptions to the rule but not many.
He taught me and my brothers that we do the same work with our mother as we did with our father ... you hunt and trap and carry heavy things? .. you also clean the house, cook food and take care of children ... work is work when you are living in the wilderness and no one is exempted from any work because everyone has to work, no matter what the work is.
When dad was gone for a week or more to trap ... mom did all the work of cutting, hauling, splitting wood and gathering water ... she even fished, did some light trapping and fixed the house when she had to. When mom was gone from the house, dad took up cooking, feeding kids and cleaning the home and taking care of the children.
It wasn't a complete utopia and things weren't perfect .... dad was a terrible cook but he tried ... mom couldn't gather as much food as dad did.
But they taught us that you have to learn to do any and everything ... because if you are ever caught out in the world on your own .. you have to be capable of doing absolutely everything for yourself.
Thanks so much for dropping in and giving us a your perspective! It's a really detailed and interesting comment, probably the best that I've read today. We are a trans inclusive women's only community, so ask that men don't comment ❤️
I absolutely apologize for commenting .... I posted without thinking or reading the community rules ... I normally read and post while on my laptop, or PC and a big screen with a browser, I can see and read the community notes and warnings. However, I commented on this using my phone ... and these small screens don't immediately show you the community info or warnings too easily.
If you prefer, I can delete my comment.
Otherwise I'll be more careful about where I post my comments in the future .... on a phone app or on my browser.
Absolutely nothing to apologise for, it's an easy mistake to make. I'd really like your comment to stay up as it's really detailed, interesting and gives great insight into a different background. It's definitely useful information, and I'm glad I read it.