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Lemmy users, how do you deal with the current dating sphere? Assuming you haven't found Thee One? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by Steamymoomilk@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I feel dating kinda sucks, a large portion of my generation is chronically online and i feel many don't know how to socialize in person.

I recently was eating at a local dinner, and saw somebody eating by themself. I walked up and ask if this seat was taken and they said no. But looked like a rabbit in a wolfs den, i introduced myself and we both got to know each other. I gave her my number but never got any call or text.

I feel lots of people around me are unappealing, yes i know that sounds seminaristic. Ive tried a foss dating app called alovoa, because i feel every other dating app would steal your liver if they legally could. The app has brought me miniscule success, i have made one friend whom i occasionally chat with.

But it kinda leaves me in a state of i want to meet new people, because at least where i live. The dating pool is really small, and my job isnt a public facing job (machine shop)

Any advise from the elders of lemmy?

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[–] lowspeedchase@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I keep telling my s/o we need a sister wife and she keeps slapping me. That's what dating is to me now.

I've said this a bunch here and elsewhere but it bears repeating - get out there in spaces where you are forced to interact with others: rockclimbing gym, mma/martial arts gym, cooking classes (either free at the library or paid at Le' Bon' Too' Expensive'), social spaces for vices like hookah bars or bar bars (come on green lounges already!!!!).

Forced interaction where hooking up is not expected is where the real hooking up takes place. Get out there and have fun and forget about (pussy/dick/w/e) for a few weeks and it will magically start coming into your life.

[–] abbadon420@sh.itjust.works 16 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It's funny how your best chance at getting sex is not trying to get sex, but just trying to have a good time instead. And just being yourself, most importantly, assuming your not Steve. If you're Steve, you should be someone else.

[–] lowspeedchase@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 weeks ago

It is funny and it is true! (also fuck steve)

[–] WhyJiffie@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

bar bars? how do they force interactions? genuine question, very rarely been to one

[–] lowspeedchase@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I was kinda going down the list of more involved to least, but def they have game/trivia nights at most local pubs, plus a bunch of random events that if you participate in you are going to meet people.

[–] WhyJiffie@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 weeks ago

oh, open events! I see