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Lemmy users, how do you deal with the current dating sphere? Assuming you haven't found Thee One? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by Steamymoomilk@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I feel dating kinda sucks, a large portion of my generation is chronically online and i feel many don't know how to socialize in person.

I recently was eating at a local dinner, and saw somebody eating by themself. I walked up and ask if this seat was taken and they said no. But looked like a rabbit in a wolfs den, i introduced myself and we both got to know each other. I gave her my number but never got any call or text.

I feel lots of people around me are unappealing, yes i know that sounds seminaristic. Ive tried a foss dating app called alovoa, because i feel every other dating app would steal your liver if they legally could. The app has brought me miniscule success, i have made one friend whom i occasionally chat with.

But it kinda leaves me in a state of i want to meet new people, because at least where i live. The dating pool is really small, and my job isnt a public facing job (machine shop)

Any advise from the elders of lemmy?

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[–] callouscomic@lemmy.zip 22 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I recently was eating at a local dinner, and saw somebody eating by themself. I walked up and ask if this seat was taken and they said no. But looked like a rabbit in a wolfs den, i introduced myself and we both got to know each other. I gave her my number but never got any call or text.

There's missing context here, but you most likely never got a call or text if they were originally intending to just eat alone, and you just helped yourself into their day. Some people are just polite or don't want to confront the situation. They might have been simply tolerating you until they left.

[–] treadful@lemmy.zip 15 points 2 weeks ago

As someone that normally prefers to eat alone; maybe this isn't the worst thing. I'd welcome a little unexpected company once in a while.

That said, expecting it to turn into something romantic is extreme wishful thinking. Also, I'm not a woman so the experience is probably a bit different.