Asklemmy

Get comfortable with the reality that you won't be everyone's cup of tea, remember that rejection does not always imply a dislike of your entire person, and go out there with a couple of jokes/lines in mind until comedy becomes more second nature to you? Also, women, especially online, will talk about their long list of requirements for relationships but trust me that if you can provide them with a safe space to yap and complain and make them feel better about themselves and the world (and they think you're not ugly), they'll forget all about it. Do not be discouraged, build resilience and optimism because it's not just good for you but also highly attractive! Get a haircut? That's all I can think about at the moment.

Little anecdote: when I was about 12 I got invited to my first house party and I used to dress like a grandpa (now, when my wife is not around and honestly since my late teens, I dress like a hobo so I guess I've traded one form of being unfashionable for another, lol) and I tried to ask a couple of girls I didn't know there to dance and it went as badly as you can imagine and I felt so bad about it... So I asked my mom for some normal, age appropriate t-shirts and went online (back in the day when going online meant that your phone beeped weird, lol) and printed a list of jokes and went outside determined to change these results. Little by little I gained more confidence, as girls laughed more with me than at me (lol 😭), to the point that I continued dressing like a hobo because I realized being confidently charming can do 90% of the heavy lifting. All of this to say that maybe you just haven't socialised successfully enough to become competent and feel that way, so just do it, because as long as you don't verge into misogyny (remember "women seem wicked when you're unwanted" 🎶 was sung by very handsome man!) you can only get better at being what women want and need. Good luck!