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do you consider joking about dying and killing oneself a sign that the person saying it is troubled? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 day ago by sarah2653@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/35965987

this is a coworker.

to me a clear no, this person jokes about it and smiles. I can share her frustration with stupid job tasks, demanding clients, or having to get up too early, commute... I find her genuine and full of energy, I like working with her, she's sincere. I like that in people, she likes to help.

However, other 2 female colleagues have the opposite point of view: there is something that troubles her because she constantly jokes about death, killing herself due to some clients, waking up early...

We all agree she is so full of energy, my colleagues say she jokes about it constantly. I hear her joking about once or twice a day.

Am I being naive?

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[–] PenguinMage@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

That was my usual. Always trying to claim things were good or I was doing great! Those are the ones I try to get a real talk with. But it's also just trying to get a connection truthfully. I know my times were worst when I felt alone (and I was not, I just couldn't find the way to talk to my friends). And such I joke as much as I can cause anytime someone says "that's dark" or "have some sympathy" I tell them my story and try to always be open about it.