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Anon asks out a friend (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 day ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works

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[–] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 7 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

for some people sex and love are always linked

I have had plenty of completely meaningless one night stands and been very happy about having fun, a nice time, feeling flirty, funny, full of lust, having and giving orgasms and enjoying nice company and the physical sensations of sex, to never see them again and be totally OK with that.

I also have deep love, admiration and connection with my partner which is just as special as a virgins first love. Because all love is great.

[–] shawn1122@sh.itjust.works 5 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

Can't say that sex and love ie romantic love must go together but I'm a dude and I personally don't enjoy the idea of commodified, hedonistic sex that's is often peddled by the dominant culture.

To me (and to each their own) sex is pointless without a deeper connection.

Many women go from unable to climax during sex to easily doing so when a deeper connection and understanding is sought by their partner.

That isn't to say that "meaningless" sex is bad. If both parties are down for it, by all means, have fun.

But I feel that sex is meant to be a spiritual experience. If I desire someone and they also yearn to share a deeper physical connection with me, they should feel my desire within their very essence of self, through my words and my eyes, before we even touch. Even when we do touch, intercourse would have to wait patiently in favor of foreplay so that my desire, my meaning, could first be communicated with my mind, body and everything else. Love making flows naturally from that state.

I was raised in a Western Christian nation where I grew up confused as two polar opposite attitudes towards sex prevailed. One was religious shame and guilt towards any type of sexual pleasure. The other was sexual liberation, which is undoubtedly an improvement, but it commodified sex, making it a hedonistic pursuit.

Ultimately it took reading on Indigenous thought on spirituality and intimacy, writings by Sufi poet Rumi on love and ancient Dharmic (South Asian) thought on physical intimacy (which centered sex on women's pleasure, autonomy, and rights in sexual relationships) for me to understand what sex was for me.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago

I don't disagree with anything here, and I feel similarly