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how do i take things slow with my gf? (thelemmy.club)

submitted 6 days ago by nonBInary@thelemmy.club to c/lesbians@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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so, we are holding hands but she doesn’t wanna kiss or anything because she wants to wait a while so we take it slow because i started dating her a week ago. however, i am very attached and expressive with my love and she is… less?? how can we make things work and how do i make it so i change and take things slower??

Right now, i’m too bummed out and depressed to want to be romantic or attached, so that’s “good” i guess

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[–] spykee -5 points 6 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

~~Show them your titties!
Everybody loves titties man!
Either they will immediately start nibbling on them or they will not react. But then, you would've released the tension in the air.~~
Dear OP,
Flashing them at this stage is NOT a good idea.
Start with holding pinkies while sitting at a table. Then you can proceed to holding two fingers.
Work your way through having their hand in yours.
Let them know that physical touch is endearing and you want to give as well as feel this with them.
Be at an open area and ask them if they would sit close to you. That way it's you who is cornered and not them.
With time, they should get comfortable with you.
Once they are comfortable, THEN you should proceed with the earlier suggestion.

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

This is bad and nonconsensual advice and likely to end the relationship or at least give someone trauma.

[–] spykee 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

@Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world
Alright alright alright
Yes, I know OP is asking for suggestions & I'm being a dildo.
I take it back.
Just lemme hang out with y'all.

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago

Thanks, though we'd say there's nothing wrong with dildos, especially in a lesbian community 😉

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Read the room!