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what are some signs of being led on?? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 week ago by atheqtpie@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I see people “being led on” a lot and I wonder, what are some actual signs of leading someone on in a relationship?

My 2 yr relationship with my GF is very good, I’m just curious because I do hear the phrase a lot without knowing the literal signs of it.

I also may have been “led on” before by exes.

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[–] atheqtpie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Pretending to like someone, I think

[–] mcbenavides85@piefed.social 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Assuming you mean in the beginning stages of dating or a flirty friendship? Small things like laughing at your stupid jokes, making you feel like yall are on a team and stick up for each other. Also making you feel like they MAKE time for you. Random acts of kindness. It should feel like a partnership and not one sided.

In my experience, when those things start fading, it’s done.

[–] religion6614@thelemmy.club 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I think I am leading her on, then. I stopped giving her gifts or showing her affection and stopped texting her as much but I still want to be in a relationship with her. I keep her along as my girlfriend but I admittedly don't do much, I don't kiss her.

[–] mcbenavides85@piefed.social 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Please let her go then. Maybe yall can stay friends, but that’s selfish behavior. I’ve been on the other end and it really sucks.

[–] religion6614@thelemmy.club 6 points 1 week ago

Too late. She said goodbye and let me go.

[–] dingus@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Not really related, but this is one of the many reasons why I've never been able to be in a relationship. I don't feel that way about others, so faking it feels wrong to me. I went out with a guy a couple of times and felt gross doing that. So that's about it.

Sometimes it's frustrating that I can't have an intimate relationship with someone that way, but what can you do? Have to go through life with the cards you're dealt, I guess.

[–] mcbenavides85@piefed.social 6 points 1 week ago

Hopefully you meet someone and it makes sense.

If not, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being happy with yourself.

[–] ThoGot@feddit.org 2 points 1 week ago

That kinda sounds like you're just aromantic