I wish I could say I can’t relate to how you feel, but unfortunately I can. A nine-year relationship just ended a few days ago. It’s rough, man - there’s no getting around that. It’ll get easier eventually, but this is the part you just have to suffer through; there’s no skipping over it. I hope you have people to talk with - that’s what has always helped me the most. That, and keeping yourself busy. The worst you can do is sit at home wallowing in misery. Trying to stay in contact probably won’t help either - it’ll just lengthen the recovery period. You’ve made it through your past hurdles and you’ll make it through this one as well. It doesn’t feel like that right now, but deep down you know it.

I think these are good moments to reflect on yourself and think of ways to improve so you’ll do better next time. We always know our faults even if we don’t want to admit them. Try to treat yourself as you would a friend who’s going through tough times.

Hang in there, buddy. You’ve got this.