I think she did break up with you. Sorry to hear, man. I think you should take a break from Lemmy and breathe. Please, going forward, respect her boundaries and don't pry further if she sent a goodbye message.
this post was submitted on 16 Sep 2025
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Why do you think she cared so much about something so casual?
Objection, calls for speculation!
None of us know her, can't say. I've found it helpful to discuss this sort of thing with a therapist, something about the setting blunts the impact of some of the emotional stuff and then we can focus on picking apart the issue of the day. Usually feels better once we've had a chance to talk through the areas where I could benefit from an outside perspective. Could be something to consider if you're not meeting with one already.
Due to the username and bio, gotta add in a recommendation to go to a professional with a current license rather than a joker with a cross.
~~No idea, but I hope all the love she wasted on someone who considered her nothing more than an afterthought she's now pouring into herself.~~
Hey, I'm sorry, I went and read your other comments. It seems both of you need to pour into yourselves for a long while and figure out what you really want. My b.
Take some time and figure yourself out. I saw your other post about this and I think you need to do some reflection on what you want and don't want in a relationship. Once you figure that out, look for that. Be up front about it in future relationships.
Now, it's time to go no contact. Block her from all social media and phone numbers. It's time to heal and move on. Time will heal all wounds, it's the best medicine. You just have to know how to take it.
Well you clearly wanted different things. Sucks, but not every relationship is compatible. Not sure what you mean by you're not sure what this means though. Sometimes cutting people off completely is the only way to move on.
Might not do much for you at this moment but it's better for one or both of you to figure it out today than ten years and four kids from now.
Ahh, you're the guy from AITA the other day. Seeing some of your other posts, I wonder if you're asexual.
I wish I could say I can’t relate to how you feel, but unfortunately I can. A nine-year relationship just ended a few days ago. It’s rough, man - there’s no getting around that. It’ll get easier eventually, but this is the part you just have to suffer through; there’s no skipping over it. I hope you have people to talk with - that’s what has always helped me the most. That, and keeping yourself busy. The worst you can do is sit at home wallowing in misery. Trying to stay in contact probably won’t help either - it’ll just lengthen the recovery period. You’ve made it through your past hurdles and you’ll make it through this one as well. It doesn’t feel like that right now, but deep down you know it.
I think these are good moments to reflect on yourself and think of ways to improve so you’ll do better next time. We always know our faults even if we don’t want to admit them. Try to treat yourself as you would a friend who’s going through tough times.
Hang in there, buddy. You’ve got this.