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ex understandably won't initiate contact with me, how do i befriend her? should i? (thelemmy.club)

submitted 5 days ago by nonBInary@thelemmy.club to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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so, if you have read my other posts, i just broke up with sophie because we were moving too fast and didn't "click instantly" or hit it off, so she decided she would get to know me better and be my friend.

my friend eliana says she definitely does want to be my friend, and she waves to me and all that sometimes (i think she did today).

my mom, however, said based on her experience, sophie does not really want to be friends and wants to be left alone mainly and i should wait for her to make contact.

i understand if she wants to be left alone, since we just broke up, so i do exactly that.

however, i usually have to talk to her first because she usually only talks to her friends, sits closer to them, i've noticed, and initiates contact with them but not me. however, she will still include me in stuff, invite me to things she's doing, etc. which makes me think she might want to be friends or she's doing it just to be nice.

after all, she was closer to them than me and we didn't really KNOW each other, we just knew who each other was.

should i give up the whole "friend thing"? wait a while?

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[–] TribblesBestFriend@startrek.website 8 points 5 days ago (1 children)

You should not. A relationship cannot come from only one side. Don’t strain yourself trying to do the job for two persons.

[–] nonBInary@thelemmy.club 2 points 5 days ago

Thank you 🙏