Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
- Please follow the rules of the lemmy.blahaj.zone instance.
- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
- Gatekeeping will not be tolerated.
- Please be kind and respectful to all.
- Please tag NSFW topics.
- No NSFW image posts.
- Please provide content warnings where appropriate.
- Please do not repost bigoted content here.
This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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If you're in the US, bad timing.
You're not old ๐
Look at it this way: at your age, it'll be much easier to come out if you have to.
I am in the US so that sucks
I'm so sorry
I'm a transgender woman in NY. Honestly, with all the support systems in place, I couldn't think of a better place to live. Insurance covers gender-affirming care and all of my doctors are simply amazing. I count my blessings daily.
Probably won't though on account of the whole "being a coward" thing lmfao
Don't beat yourself up. I don't think coming out is ever easy. But if you have to, it's much harder if you're a minor and/or not mature and settled in life with nothing to prove to anybody.
You don't have to come out to everyone at once. I started out with my closest friends 4 years ago, went on with my parents a year later, extended family another year later, and my coworkers just this week. Take your time, you can do this.
Another trick is to crossdrews (maybe start off around accepting people) and just see how it feels and if you keep going and feel better that way, you are probably trans and your friends will probably catch on without you having to explain yourself. That's what I did, I didn't even come out to most of them directly, I just eventually changed my pronouns on name tags and told my closer friends first.