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I've gone my whole life (I'm 35) NOT thinking I was trans but now I do, wtf am I supposed to do with this? How do I find out for sure? Am I allowed to be a trans lesbian because I'm not attracted to men? Can I even come out, when it will ruin my whole life? I'm jealous of the youth, being old sucks.

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I'm older than you and recently came to the same conclusion. Also only attracted to women/feminine presenting NB/particularly cute Femboys. The lesbian community is very accepting of trans women.

I'm assuming if your life was making you happy, you wouldn't be questioning your gender. I personally have all the things people normally strive for (house, car family, good health etc) and was still miserable.

The best way to know for sure is to imagine yourself transitioning and not transitioning and see which scenario makes you happier.