WomensStuff

"Personally I think the worse problem should be worked on before the lesser one. (I mean both can be worked on concurrently, but one of them has a higher priority should there be a conflict in time or energy or whatnot.)"

I agree with most of your comment, but this part I disagree with. To give an analogy, I think this is like someone having an allergic reaction, and they have symptoms such as difficulty breathing, and also their eyes are stinging and streaming. Here, the burning eyes are analogous to misandry, and the breathing is analogous to misogyny. Obviously the latter is the far more serious symptom, and it often requires urgent intervention to mitigate the risk of breathing problems. However, merely treating the symptoms can only go so far: if someone keeps coming into contact with the allergen and needing to have urgent care to treat their symptoms, then it would be wise to zoom out and try to address the root cause of the problem (whether that be through attempting to treat the root allergy, or taking measures to avoid the root).

I don't like the framing of "the worse problem should be worked on before the lesser one" because it distracts from the fact that it's not just that we can work on them concurrently, but that we should do it that way, via tackling the underlying root systems that produce both misogyny and misandry. It's obvious in your comment that you understand that misogyny and misandry are often two sides of the same coin, but not everyone does understand that, and I feel that the either/or framing is unproductive.

Though I will also note though that in my allergy example, it would be utterly absurd if a doctor was trying to discuss long term allergy treatment while a person was actively experiencing an anaphylactic reaction and struggling to breathe. It is reasonable and necessary to do emergency first aid before we're able to have those kinds of long term discussions. Addressing the concrete harms of misogyny is like emergency first aid — it's far harder for a woman to consider her views on feminism and family if she's living somewhere with scary forced-birther laws, for example. But I think we need to keep our eye on the prize so to speak, and work to remember that we are striving to do more than just treat the symptoms of inequality