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You know, being neuro-stable(?) is becoming increasingly more difficult. I'm starting to more fully understand my neuro spicy brothers and sisters. The anxiety isn't in your head. And I'm here for you.
Anxiety in my head: “Something extreme and urgent and unjustifiable is going to happen and nobody will respond proportionally to keep you safe”
The fucking news: “Something extreme and urgent and unjustifiable has happened for the 11th time this week, and 49% of the country is cheering for it”
The trick is learning you're not important enough for things to happen to.
I mean, lot of the anxiety is in my head.
But not all of it, and that part just keeps growing! It's going to outpace the internal anxiety soon!
being neuro-stable is to have a clear plan of how you're gonna live your life day-to-day for the next 50 years. that was possible in the (post-WW2) 20th century where people were just expected to have jobs and go to work day-to-day. There was no uncertainty in that scheme, so being mentally stable was significantly straightforward. Today, that scheme doesn't work anymore as the job market is falling apart and people are uncertain how they're gonna live their lifes.
Having such a detailed plan sounds neurodivergent as fuck.
Being stable can be as simple as being relatively centered while chaos ensues.