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If you found someone attractive, would you date them if you found out they were trans?
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this post was submitted on 24 Sep 2025
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Can we just not do threads like this? It literally just a thread for cis people to confidently declare how much they find trans people yucky and how they are completely justified in finding us repulsive. Nothing good comes from these discussions.
People say they have a genital preference, yet trans people have a range of different genitalia, pre-op, intersex, or post operative. People say they want kids, yet some trans people can still have kids pregnancy, banked eggs or sperm, adoption, surrogacy, etc.
For every "requirement" cis people have for trans people there is a trans person that exists that meets those requirements and then cis people move the goalposts to justify their bigotry.
Cis people don't respond.
yep you are exactly right, though I don't know how you expect cis people to know this without interacting with trans people who are able to complicate their view ...
it sounds like you justified the thread for me - the good that comes from a thread like this is the possibility of cis people learning more about the diversity of human biology. I don't expect anyone to change their views overnight, but refusing to talk to cis people about their views just because they are problematic doesn't seem right to me ๐ค
still, you're not entirely wrong that the discussions can just become a way for transphobia to be aired publicly, so I understand why other trans folks might not want to be exposed to this
Nah fuck that, cis people don't get debated in this way publicly at all. Cis people can go learn elsewhere in a more moderated setting, meanwhile this thread is full of bigotry that the rest of us are subjected to.